Synastry Chart Report

This is a challenging relationship at best. Both of you have had plenty of moments where you've looked at each other or at yourselves in the mirror and wondered exactly why you got into this in the first place. Problems arise from the very serious differences that exist between you as individuals. There is a certain element of criticism and control between you, and you may always feel as if your individuality, who you are as a strong, vital human being, is being challenged by your lover or even diminished.

At first it was probably infrequent or mild, but as your involvement deepened, you probably found yourselves going head to head more and more often. You two have some basic and important differences when it comes to how life should be lived, and these differences take center stage every time you try to take your relationship to the next level. You take on the image of being overly traditional, even boring, and your lover takes on the image of being unstable and irresponsible and possibly even crazy. But it's much more likely that they're painful disagreements that cut into both your souls.

This is a difficult comparative aspect because the aggressiveness of Mars upsets and irritates the Moon, the Moon person's moodiness and sensitivity makes the Mars person impatient. In two really strong charts this aspect can produce constructive action in business, family and domestic affairs. It may produce a good deal of sexual attraction, but with no guarantee of compatibility. Mars is too apt to try to change the partner. This connection works best in circumstances when the Mars person is the Male and the Moon person is the female. However, in all cases this is a difficult combination for marriage, family relationships, or for people who live together, since it is likely to produce domestic disagreements.

This aspect produces difficulty in communication and with general understanding one another regarding everyday practical domestic affairs and family matters. There may be disagreement over diet, personal hygiene, neatness and order in the home, and the handling of personal affairs. Mercury tends to operate on a more intellectual and rational level, while the Moon responds on an instinctual and emotional level. Mercury is likely to view the other as over-emotional and unreliable, while the Moon person sees the other as overly critical and insensitive. A good deal of time may be spend discussing these differences with little resolve.

This is one of the best combinations for a romantic attraction. You really enjoy each other's company. You are sexually attracted, and have a sympathetic, emotional harmony with each other. You enjoy an attitude of mutual consideration and kindness.

Your partner encourages you to be the person you want to be to pursue your goals, achieve your ambitions and become the success that you have the potential for within you. This encouraging energy is an active part of your day-to-day interactions, but it also comes through as a sort of effortless good-luck vibe. The support and enthusiasm your partner offers you actually creates a very positive energy that pushes you to dream big and act fearlessly. And sexually, you two are very much in tune.

You have a major appetite for each other, but you rarely have trouble with complications like jealousy or possessiveness, at least not on your lover's side. They just support you and give of their love freely. You may feel more emotionally bonded with them than you have felt with anyone in a long time.

When you're feeling tuned in and affectionate, wanting to connect on an intimate level, your partner is cool and aloof, emotionally unavailable. Your sexual rhythms are off, and your timing isn't the best when it comes to finding times when you're both ready to go. You may frequently end up feeling rejected and unloved. You both have lot of expectations from each other which does not get fulfilled and the issue starts. You just rebel against the attempts to control you, which leads to indiscriminate behavior in the name of pure rebellion. Your own shortcomings are projected onto each other; you get mad at each other for possessing the qualities that you like least in yourselves.

Getting to know each other was as easy as can be. If you end up working together or launching a creative project, this aspect can help tremendously in the spontaneous production of great ideas. Your creativity is stimulated when you're together, and you two come up with all kinds of great ideas when you get in the same room.

This aspect helps you smooth over any rough patches that may occur in your relationship, because you instinctively know when to make a compromise in order to keep things harmonious. It's not that you are a pushover when it comes to your lover; you certainly stand up for your position when it's truly important. Harmony will be a focus between you, an ideal that you work hard to attain together. You don't want to argue with each other much, and if you have other more aggressive aspects between you, this one greatly tones down that troublesome energy.

The mental effect you two have on each other is strong, but not necessarily pleasant. There is an air of intensity when you're together, and your partner pushes you to confront the deepest, most complex and potentially frightening issues in your life your past, for example, or your attitudes about death, sex and spirituality. The way that they try to force you to face these issues down and ferret out your deepest, most buried emotions is probably pretty uncomfortable for both of you. You likely have arguments over your differing viewpoints or you fight when you don't feel like obsessing about such issues all the time.

You share a strong physical attraction from the start you, especially, look at the two of you together and think how wonderful you look as a couple. There is a certain level of vanity to this relationship, but not at all in a bad way. You both simply feel that you've found what you're looking for in one another. Your romantic connection is strong and your affection for one another runs deep.

This aspect helps you smooth over any rough patches that may occur in your relationship, because you instinctively know when to make a compromise in order to keep things harmonious. It's not that your lover is a pushover when it comes to you; they certainly stand up for their position when it's truly important. But harmony is a focus between you, an ideal that you work hard to attain together. You don't want to argue with each other much, and if you have other more aggressive aspects between you, this one greatly tones down that troublesome energy.

You didn't just fall for your partner; you learned from them and look up to them as a mentor who can teach you about the kind of person you want to become. You're able to talk openly with them about anything and everything that comes up, and they understand you really well. You both have fun when you go out together, and you also point it out when there's a social opportunity that could develop into something more.

You each know that you can bring your problems to the table, whether they're personal problems or issues related to work or anything else, and together, you can figure out how to solve them. Clear communication and practical innovations are your forte as a couple. You communicate well with each other and you treat each other with generosity. There is a feeling of 'what's mine is yours' between you.

This aspect fosters a feeling of uniqueness and originality in your relationship. You don't want to be like everyone else; you want to be your own, brand-new kind of couple, and you two can make that happen by following wherever your moods take you. This is a highly creative and social relationship; you have a lot of fun exploring the world together. You feel like you've never known anyone like this before, but it would be more accurate to say no one has ever made you feel this way before.

You two are very close emotionally, maybe too close. You're constantly trying to figure out what they're thinking and feeling, what they need to feel better, and so on, but you can't figure it out because they're as hard to see through as smoke. Try not to get so caught up in your lover's life that you find yourself subverting your own needs in favor of meeting theirs, because you both deserve to get what you want out of love and to feel good. And the truth is, while you've been emotionally invested in your partner from the start, you might not ever know where you stand with them.

You have laid bare your heart and soul in this relationship, and you've done so because you had no other choice. This started out as an overwhelming fascination between you, followed by a big sexual charge. You may have been strongly attracted to your partner in the very beginning, but now your attraction is out of this world; they have a compelling hold on your imagination and you're still amazed by how deeply you can get into things with them. Honesty can get you even farther in this relationship, and developing an even more amazing and transformative love is a very real possibility.

You naturally share a lot of respect for each other, and that allows you to continue to grow as individuals even as you form a strong union with one another. You honor the relationship with a deep sense of responsibility, even duty but that doesn't weigh down the fun, light connection between you, and it doesn't limit who your partner is as an individual human being. This relationship is, in part, about personal growth, and about inspiring your lover in that growth. You're rather work- or career-oriented, and learn from your lover about how to let those things slide every now and again in order to make time for the more fun or romantic side of life.

Especially when compared to so many relationships in which the merging of two personalities means the submerging of parts of both, this is a true gift, and one to be properly appreciated. Whatever high-flying, abstract or generally not well-founded ideas your partner may have, you find a way to give expression and function to those ideas. You have a sobering effect on them, but not in a bad way. Instead, you help to stabilize their thought processes.

You focus together on ascending to greater spiritual heights, and you can both develop, through this relationship, a greater sense of awareness of the universe and yourselves as long as you take care to communicate well with each other. For example, you tend to be what you think of as a realist, but that realism is truly more like cynicism, pessimism or even an occasional lack of emotion. This relationship helps you open up your soul a little bit and soften those hardened layers of doubt and mistrust toward the universe. The two of you might actually do some hard work in a spiritual arena, which comes in the form of long discussions that cover abstract subjects like psychic ability and so on.

This aspect might not be the easiest one to deal with, but it does offer a strengthening effect on your relationship. Hard times arise in your lives, forcing you to depend on each other in big ways much more than you might have anticipated, especially if you got together with the idea in mind that yours would just be a fun, free, simple little affair. External circumstances such as one of you being laid off from your job or having to find new housing both tests your bond and strengthens it. But this aspect could also take a different form; it could be that difficulties have come up within the relationship itself, and you each have to work hard on your own to meet the challenge.

There is something mysterious, even confusing between you that always obscures important factors your true feelings for your partner, perhaps, or your identity as an individual within the relationship. It might be that they simply don't see you for the person that you truly are, because something below the emotional surface of your relationship muddies their view of you. This is as difficult to pinpoint as it is to understand, but the effects are felt by both of you. You might have hurt feelings that you refuse to talk about, and you insist everything is fine, even though both of you know that's not true.

This relationship is confusing for both of you. Though you try to be upbeat and enthusiastic when you get together, your partner might find that their energy is sapped through the course of your interactions, and they leave each date feeling drained, even depressed. They aren't able to concentrate when you're together; the plans you make often fall apart, and they could start to feel as if they just shouldn't even try what's the use, after all.

Though you might get along really well for a time, you realize after a while that there's some sort of disconnect in your communication. This could be a major pattern of willful dishonesty, but it's more likely to be as minor and intangible as you holding a part of yourself back due to insecurity or past experiences and then your lover follows suit, because they feel vulnerable and self-protective when they pick up on this strange vibe. Of course, when we're courting a new lover and falling in love, it's perfectly natural to put our best face forward but doing so hides that whole other side of ourselves that comes out later, the side that isn't so kind and smart and well-thought-out. You two might have gotten involved with each other before you really knew each other, so your expressions of affection might be less than sincere you might not even be certain of your own heart.

The emotional attraction between you is so powerful. You feel incredibly affectionate toward each other, as if you just can't get enough of being close of hugging, holding hands and stroking each other's hair as you gaze into each other's eyes. Your physical closeness is just the outer expression of a very inner affinity. Needless to say, this aspect supports true love between you, especially if other aspects help bring you close.

But you don't have to stop there when it comes to focusing the power that this aspect brings to your relationship. The two of you are able to join forces and accomplish almost anything you put your minds to. This strength and determination could be put to good use in a variety of ways.

You provoke an intense response in your partner, which feels amazing at first. Their sexual attraction to you could be overwhelming, and they feel transformed by your intimate experiences together, as if they've finally found The One. Sooner or later and probably sooner you begin to affect each other's moods too much; when one of you is down, you both feel out of sorts. If your partner needs some alone time, for whatever reason, you feel intensely insecure and abandoned, and you respond by trying to keep them with you by any emotional means necessary manipulative or passive-aggressive behavior are definitely possible.

The intensity of this aspect depends on both your individual birth charts, not to mention the other aspects that exist between you as a couple, but whether it's strong or subtle, it isn't easy to deal with. Instead of respecting your lover's views and listening for things you could learn from or adopt for yourself, you look askance at the way your lover thinks about life, love and spirituality. You likely have a more forceful personality than they do and even try to control how they think, or change their spiritual beliefs to match up more with yours. You should be listening to each other, not closing yourselves off to each other; respecting each other's beliefs, not telling your lover their beliefs are wrong.